Granted, I can still use this book now. I have a six-year-old and a 2-year-old, both of whom are not the best sleepers. I learned a lot with my first one, so my second sleeps better than she does, but E has a long way to go. And W will be moving to a big boy bed soon, so this book is going to be a LIFE SAVER.
I was a lazy mommy with my first daughter. I breastfeed her and when she got her first cold (and I was sick too) and well, one thing led to another… I’m ashamed to admit it… but, well she wound up in the bed with us. Which, honestly, co-sleeping with her worked for us. Worked, that is, until she hit about 3. By then, there was another baby on the way, and we needed her in her own bed. She is now 6 and we’re STILL working on getting her to stay in her own bed.
The boy never slept with us. I breastfed him over a year too, but I learned from my daughter. It may be easier to put them in the bed NOW, but when they are older it’s harder to get them out. I’m worried now about transitioning him into his own bed, which will be in her room (we have a very small house), when she still refuses to stay in her bed all night.
So we are going to be overhauling the sleep situation in this house, with The Sleep Lady’s help, starting tonight. The book says from newborn to five years, but I figure six is close enough. We’re going to decide the routine and stick to it. We’re going to use a sticker chart and a reward system. We are going to establish manners, which I really like the sound of:
I call them manners, rather than rules, because manners connote expected behavior and earned praise. Also, it’s a reminder that we want to incorporate manners in our life all the time, not just when we are getting stickers.
I’m going with:
1. Lie quietly in bed. (No shouting or yelling, just quiet talking or humming.)
2. Put yourself to sleep without Mommy or Daddy laying down with you.
3. Most important, put yourself back to sleep without Mommy or Daddy laying down with you. Or, rather, getting into our bed. This will be tricky, since she’s pretty good at getting in our bed without waking me up. When she wants to anyway.
4. Stay quietly in bed until it’s time to get up.
Once we get her sleeping in HER bed all night, we’ll move on to him. I’m hopeful that we will learn so much with her, that he will be a breeze. We’re already halfway there, with him sleeping all night in his bed and putting himself to sleep. I’m sure, with The Sleep Lady’s help, we’ll get the house sleeping better in no time. Her plan sounds so simple, and, the best part, it doesn’t involve unnecessary crying and screaming through the night. I’ve never liked the sound of the Cry-It-Out method and swore to never use it. And I never have. It just sounds too traumatic. I also appreciate the inclusion of Sleep Logs, a Sleep Manner Chart and a nifty little Award of Achievement in the back. Plus there is a couple of places to keep notes and even a resources page with lots of books about parenting and bedtime books. Also, speaking as a mother who got a ton of useless presents at baby showers, THIS would make a fantastic gift.
Sleep Lady Biography
KIM WEST is a mother of two and a Licensed Certified Social Worker-Clinical (LCSW-C) who has been a practicing child and family social worker for more than sixteen years. Known as The Sleep Lady® by her clients, over the past twelve years she has helped thousands of tired parents all over the world learn to listen to their intuition, recognize their child’s important cues and behaviors, and gently create changes that promote and preserve his or her healthy sleep habits.
West has appeared on the Dr. Phil, Today Show, NBC Nightly News, Good Morning America, TLC’s Bringing Home Baby and CNN, and has been written about in a number of publications including The Wall Street Journal, Associated Press, Baby Talk, Parenting, The Baltimore Sun, USA Today, The Telegraph, The Irish Independent and the Washington Post. West hosts the sleep section of The Newborn Channel, played in maternity wards in hospitals across the country.
West has spoken to numerous parenting groups across the country about the importance of children’s sleep and how to gently teach your child to go to sleep and sleep through the night.
West is the author of “GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT: The Sleep Lady’s Gentle Guide to Helping Your Child Go to Sleep, Stay Asleep and Wake Up Happy” with co-author Joanne Kenen. Published by Vanguard Press in January 2005. She is also the author of “52 Sleep Secrets for Babies”. Published by Easton Studio Press in November 2008.
Kim West received her master’s degree in Clinical Social Work from Simmons College in Boston, Massachusetts. She lives with her family in Annapolis, Maryland.
The Good Night, Sleep Tight Workbook; Gentle Proven Solutions to Help Your Child Sleep Well and Wake Up Happy
Author: Kim West, LCSW-C
Category: Parenting, Sleep Coaching, Self-help
Published by: Easton Studio Press
Visit The Sleep Lady at her website; SleepLady.com